One easy and painless step to living a better life

Sacrifice can be healthy.

I never thought about it this way until Dr. Robert Holden penned these words in his weekly newsletter. He was talking about Lent, the ritual of giving up something for the weeks proceeding Easter, and how most of us choose to sacrifice things we really don’t want to give up such as chocolate, alcohol, caffeine, etc. He pointed out that most people fail at this commitment because they’re trying to give up something they really don’t want to and will just go back to eating or doing the day after Easter.

Instead, he suggests that Lent should be a time to look at what’s not working in your life. And that to change your life, you have to be willing to sacrifice what isn’t working for something better. I want better, don’t you? Better sounds great, thrilling, and much more enticing than being stuck.

3 powerful steps to silence your inner critic

My inner critic becomes my constant companion when I’m on the verge of taking a new and positive step in my life. She shouts things like, “You’re not worthy. Who do you think you are to want this? You’re never going to make that happen, so give up now sucker.” Yeah- my inner critic can be a bit of a mean girl.

And if you’re a human being, she’s been your companion at some time. However, the inner critic, she’s not you. She’s not who you are at your inner most core. She’s your fear rearing her head to keep you stuck in place, a way to play it safe, to not take a chance to grow and discover your strength and wisdom.

5 Steps to breaking the 'me last' cycle

For decades, my life occurred in the 10 minutes of the day that existed between everyone else’s schedule, agenda, needs and demand. I lamented that I didn’t really have a life- I was so caught up in making sure everyone else’s life was meeting their own expectations, and to do this I put everyone’s needs first and mine were a very, very distant last. You’d need the Hubble Telescope to even see them lagging behind.

Being stuck is not a permanent condition- 4 powerful steps to free yourself

In the journey of every woman, there comes a time when she feels stuck. It’s inertia couple with fear. A sense that you’ll be stuck in place, experiencing the same feelings over and over again, and you can’t see an escape route. You’re immobilized, a bit panicky, and just want it all to go away.

A new year intention tromps the tired, worn out resolution

I know there’s power in making a list- I’m the classic list maker and I’m just as guilty and admit to the small thrill that races up my spine when I see all the boxes checked. But this is not living, this is just organization.

Your life is about being, not doing.

There’s no trophy at the end, for the woman who did it all. There may be other rewards such as exhaustion, frustration, and the sense that you missed the point of it all.

There’s a better way. A more purposeful and fulfilling way to manifest the life you want. One full of connection, meaning, and a sense of awe.

5 powerful steps for letting go of tension (open yourself up to change)

That’s the thing about change, you can say I’m going to do this- tackle it all at once. But the truth is that if you hit it with a bomb, you don’t get to experience the journey and the lessons waiting for you. You miss out on the excavation, the discovery, and the joy of progress.

The key to lasting change

I thought I had my stuff together. That after years of doing some really hard work and excavating old wounds and bringing to the light all that needed to be healed, I’d finally arrived at the promise land. A place where old fears never visited, and I would skip along my merry way singing Dancing Queen.

Instead I fell into a trap with tears streaming down my face.

I so want to be part of the cool kids.