Do you ever so this?

Spiral yourself into a tizzy, because you’re feeling insecure, unsafe or imagining that all the monsters lurking under the bed are going to slink out and swallow you up?

We all have triggers. Those thoughts that cause us to feel panicky, queasy, and anxious. They usually appear when we’re trying to control every aspect of our life and failing miserably: We need money, our child is struggling, our job is sucking the life out of us, the love we want is absent or being withheld.

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Why what other people think about you doesn't matter

A few small words.

Small because they’re petty and mean.

Small because that’s how they make your feel.

Small because you can easily fit them into your heart, even if there’s no room for their destructive nature.

Small is how I felt.

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Quit suffering from the disease to please

The Disease to Please.

Maybe you’re a victim too? Its tentacles grasping at your values, boundaries, and authenticity? Trying to keep you stuck in place, where everyone else’s needs overshadow your own until you end up living a life where your wants, desires and dreams are just wisps of memory?

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How to stop you being too hard on yourself?

The new year began with hopes, goals, dreams and a heaping helping of determination,

It lasted…all of 5 days. I’m not proud of my collapse of will power, but I’m understanding my own self imposed limits, because that’s what they are, limits that I’ve welcomed in and made cozy on the sofa of my psyche-complete with the cushy pillow and fringed throw.

Why did I fail so quickly and why wasn’t I surprised?

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Sticks & Stones-Letting go of a deep hurt

It’s empowering to shout out that you aren’t in bondage to someone else definition of you. Forgiveness gives you the strength to reclaim all the parts of yourself. It’s about letting go of the hurt and keeping the lesson, which is where you grew stronger and learned your own power.

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How to stop holding onto other people's crap

As I bent down to scoop up Perri’s latest deposit into a baggie, I thought about how much time I spend carrying a baggie of poo around. Hmmm. Twice a day times over 300 days a year. Yikes! That’s a lot of baggies.

From there my little brain thought about how much time I spend carrying around other people’s little baggies. You know- their unsolicited opinions, negativity, drama.

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What to do when you don't want to forgive

I’m not ready to let it go, it’s still too fresh. But I’m ready to let go of my frustration with myself, the expectation that I had to do something I wasn’t ready for. I could easily throw away the feelings of inadequacy, guilt, and shame.

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What you're secretly telling others

Is there an area is your life that’s missing the mark…a bit off target from what you want?

What message are you secretly telling others about your expectations related to your relationships, your worth, your career?

Once you know your secret vibe, then take action to soften its pulse.

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When you've just had enough

You are depleted.

You feel stripped away of your verve, your energy, your spark.

You may feel worthless and try with all your might to continue at breakneck speed, but you body, mind and spirit have slammed on the breaks and you come to a screeching halt.

This isn’t a bad thing.

It’s your soul telling you it’s time to rest, reflect and replenish.

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How to turn your life into a Drama Free Zone

You allow yourself to get sucked in. Your emotions take over and the next thing you know your spewing ugly words or being invaded by nasty thoughts. You fully engage in the drama, maybe even relishing the adrenalin hit that comes rushing into your blood. Tit for tat, and baby -you can really give it back.

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Why you should be a slacker (occasionally)

The thing about being a slacker is that it's necessary.

Life is wound up with deadlines and expectations. A break from the chaos doesn't mean you're irresponsible, it means you're smart.

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Embracing that Sucky Feeling

Usually I try to jolly myself out of ‘this life is sucky’ place, but as I mowed my lawn, I decided to stop and stay for a while. I gave myself permission to wallow. I gave it to the pity party and since it was my party – I cried because I wanted to.

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The Joy of being Alone

The nugget of wisdom that I gained from my wise three year old is that we all need moments to separate ourselves from the group. Whether this is to recharge our energy, hear our own thoughts, or not throttle the next person who needs something from you.

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Are you just too tired? A simple cure.

When you’re tired you make more mistakes, your creativity drains away, and the quality of what you’re focusing on diminishes. You’re unable to give your best effort. You may be crossing things off your list, lickety split, but the quality of your work and your personal interactions are in the dumper.

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