Pssst…I’ll tell you a secret.
You can choose to have an astonishing kick butt kind of day or a ho hum, drag your fanny kind of day.
That’s right- you can choose.
It’s totally up to you. Not your boss, your friend with the crazy schemes, or even the guy who flipped you off on the way to work. It’s all on you.
Read MoreEmotional hurts touch something deep inside. Old wounds that didn’t quite heal and are once again exposed, festering and oozing. They can have a crippling effect on your sense of worth.
How do you move through an emotional hurt and regain your balance? Notice I didn’t say heal or stop or get over, but move through, as in navigate.
Read MoreWhen did being okay become synonymous with bad?
Being okay is actually a relief. In a world that has been turned upside down and inside out, being on an even keel is a blessing. It takes a lot of energy to sustain prolonged negativity or positivity. And what I’m feeling now is like a period of rest.
Read MoreThe funny thing about triggers is that we never know when one might set us off, but we certainly know when we’ve been triggered. There’s a frustration and helplessness as a more basic instinctual response rises up. And we’re left reeling from a flood of lower emotions that leave us feeling disoriented, ashamed, and extremely vulnerable.
A trigger is the Universe’s way of telling us we have an unhealed story.
Read MoreAfter the accident, I felt like I was stuck, missing my purpose, and that there was something more I was destined to accomplish in my time on this big, beautiful planet. I spent two years, trying to find my way to the surface, feeling overwhelmed, fearful, and not recognizing my life.
What I didn’t know at the time, was that all the discomfort was a result of my own spiritual growth. My skin felt itchy, like it didn’t fit any more. Which was true. I’d outgrown some old beliefs and was struggling to figure out my new way of living.
Read MoreUnintentionally, I’ve made my world smaller. I’ve become a bit too entrenched in my own opinions and ideas. There’s less room in my mind and heart for alternatives.
My thinking and attitude are “I know what I know and there’s no point in looking at it another way.”
What I want? To rediscover my inner pirate, gypsy queen, diva rockstar, and Charlie’s Angel.
Read MoreMistakes have this uncanny ability to suck us in – into our worse selves. We fixate on what we did wrong, obsessing on what the outcome should have been. I’ll fess up and admit there’s been times when I’ve let a mistake hijack my day or even a week.
What’s being missed is the opportunity.
Read MoreThere’s this underlying current of thinking that many of us suffer from. We think if we ask for what we want, we are being selfish, not selfless. Hundreds of years of conditioning, especially for women, has taught us to subjugate our needs and wants. It’s getting over this hurdle, that is the hardest.
Read MoreThere are times when we simply feel adrift, the unknown so overwhelming that we seek the familiar, people and things that makes us feel safe, secure and supported. Just by their presence, we once again feel anchored and rooted.
Read MoreThere’s nothing more frustrating then wanting to go to sleep and have it escape like a fugitive from justice. Just at the edge of your sight, and when you think your close…bam gone again.
Insomnia hits us all, especially when we need it most: in times of stress when our body, mind and spirit desperately need a break, a chance to reset so we can function and not be like the walking dead. Sleep is when we rejuvenate and heal our bodies from disease. It helps reduce heart disease, inflammation, depression, memory loss and increases weight loss. Sleep is vital, but she can be a real a witch.
Read MoreAs we visited, she shared something she heard during a podcast. “We’re all being given a clean slate.”
During all the overwhelm, anxiety, fear, and uncertainty, there’s a thread of renewal that is connecting everyone.
It’s like the whole world has re-discovered what it’s like to be present.
Read MoreI needed to feel safe. I needed to breathe. I needed to set back the clock five minutes, so I could once again be ignorant, clueless, and blissful.
Vulnerability sucks. There’s an exposure that is so personal, like your insides are set out in front of others for them to pick through, discarding the parts that are unworthy.
Read MoreI’m exhausted and I feel just off, like I’m here, but I’m not. Everything is muted and my capacity to feel is diminished, like a thin shadow has settled over me, stifling my senses.
Yesterday, I was chatting with a friend about how she’s managing during the pandemic and heard my feelings echoed in her words. She wasn’t feeling quite herself; her moods would shift quickly, and she felt like she’s been walking in quicksand. And she’s not the only one. So many of my friends have been experiencing lethargy, sadness, tiredness, and a general sense of malaise.
That’s when the lightbulb came on, and just like in a cartoon, I felt the little pop above my head and I thought ‘a-ha.’
It’s grief.
Read MoreThe past week, like you, I’ve been inundated with media stories, surrounded by negativity and fear, and doing my best to be both grounded and go with the flow. I’m not an anxious person, but I’ve had moments where I’ve felt untethered and a bit scared. Those feelings, more than the threat of the pandemic, causing me to be stressed, because it’s not my normal state of being.
Read MoreA boiling pot of gunk. Rumbling and noxious. Every changing from moment to moment.
My emotions are all over the place from disbelief, to overwhelm, to a deeper grief.
All due to the COVID-19 and social distancing.
So many people are overwhelmed with fear.
I’ve talked with friends, family, co-workers, and even the Walmart stocker. (more about him in a minute) Everyone is struggling, whether they publicly admit or not.
It’s okay.
It’s okay to be scared, angry, frustrated, and lonely. Please don’t judge yourself or anyone else for their response to this crisis.
Read MoreFunny isn’t it how we become accustomed to and accept things into our life?
Gradually, and sometimes without our permission, our lives morph. Many times, the change is normal and healthy such as when your child leaves for college, but what about when those times when your acceptance of the life your living is unhealthy?
Read MoreThere are three steps. Easy peasy, right? Three things you can do to have healthier friendships, because those relationships are your anchor- they keep you grounded when the winds and waves of life threaten to rip you off course.
As women we need connection to others. It’s how we grow, gain support, express our creativity, emerge as goddesses, and embrace our own vulnerabilities. Without friendships, life is isolating, and our spirits shrink and dim.
Read MoreWhy does the word selfish get such a bum rap?
Why is it undesirable or even considered a bit ugly to think about yourself? Your feelings, wants, and desires? How else are you going to know what you really want your life to be?
I’ve redefined selfish.
Read MoreDo you ever so this?
Spiral yourself into a tizzy, because you’re feeling insecure, unsafe or imagining that all the monsters lurking under the bed are going to slink out and swallow you up?
We all have triggers. Those thoughts that cause us to feel panicky, queasy, and anxious. They usually appear when we’re trying to control every aspect of our life and failing miserably: We need money, our child is struggling, our job is sucking the life out of us, the love we want is absent or being withheld.
Read MoreEvery time you utter these three words, you’re telling the world that you don’t matter.
That they’re wasting time on you.
That your wants, desires, and dreams are unimportant.
It’s self sabotage and it’s time to put a stop to it.
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